Psychointegration: BEING IMPORTANT

Thursday, October 31, 2013

BEING IMPORTANT

BEING IMPORTANT

Psychointegration Session

11/Sept/2007

By Jorge Raul Olguin.

Can we have a concept which is the opposite from another concept and yet both concepts are united? Yes! Let’s talk about oneself. Oneself represents everybody. I have said it many times that we all are important. We are important without the approval of the others, we are important even though some people love us or hate us, we are important in spite of their acceptance or their rejection, we are important if we succeed at some things and even if we fail at other things. If we think otherwise it would mean that we live seeking the approval of others and we cannot live seeking the approval of others. Living a life seeking the approval of others is a role of ego. Then, we are important by ourselves. We are important even though we don’t reach a desired goal in a certain time. Otherwise we would be looking for success only. At a personal level we feel love for a person and we feel we are the best, but a certain day the things change and we feel like the most miserable person on Earth. This means that we are delegating the power to the other person so that he/she makes us feel happy or extremely unhappy. Who is giving that power to that person? We are the ones who give that power.

As I said in many opportunities, the power of the word does not exist, now I also say the same about people as a whole. If I take a hair and I put it on a table at 50 inches from me and with a thundering voice I say: ‘Move!’ The hair is not going to move even a tenth of a millimeter, this means that my word has no power at all. It might have energy, but my word has no power to move a single hair. How can I have the power to offend, to hurt using an insult, a contemptuous or hateful remark? Because the other person is giving me that power; that is the ego of the other person! But if I have my ego integrated and I know how valuable I am - not valuable from the pedestal of narcissism or pedantry, but valuable as a human being in terms of being able to help others- then, I will not be offended by scorn, no insult will have the power to hurt me, contempt is not going to harm me.

Then, now that we know that words have no power over us, the others have no power over us either. They say that love is the greatest feeling there is. I say that Love is the most beautiful feeling. It is the feeling that feeds us. The problem is that most of the times we are badly informed on what Love is. True Love is a Love that is fueled by personal and impersonal love, because only personal love is weak. Love is feeling, pure feeling, but when that love is mixed with personalized love it is fueled also by emotions. And there are emotions that are not good counselors. There are emotions that lead us to create new roles of control, such as jealousy, spitefulness, contempt, and we live torturing, manipulating or being manipulated.

One cannot live on the physical plane only with impersonal Love, because, as a matter of fact, personal love is beautiful. I think that it's one of the greatest treasures we have. Not only at the level of a lifetime partner, but also as a parent, a son, a daughter, etc. And it’s gratifying. The negative issue that spoils that kind of love has to do with our roles of ego that make us shiver and then we rely on that love. Not by feeling it, but when others feel it for us! And we become slaves, prisoners of the love that they can feel for us. And it's like a double-edged weapon because it gives us pleasure to know that they feel this love for us, but at the same time it’s also like a drug that causes addiction and dependence. Then, if they stop feeling that love for us we feel unhappy, because we are accustomed to that kind of love.

Does this mean that it’s harmful to feel personal love? No! The important thing is to have balance and others will tell me: No! Having balance would be to measure love! And you yourself have said on more than one occasion that love is not measured if it’s big or small, just like an old song from three decades ago. It is true! So how do we measure love? We do not measure it! Ok. I do not measure love! So let's talk about physics... How does physics have to do with love? You'll see.

If we have a bottle of one liter of capacity and we pour half a liter of liquid in it and we want to add another liter of liquid, the whole liter will not fit into the bottle. At best half a liter will fit in the bottle. In that container will not fit more than one liter because that’s its capacity. The same would be if we put 600 cc plus 400 cc of another liquid that can be in that bottle, but always within the capacity of 1000 cc. All right. The container of love is full, but love can be enslaving if the other person does not feel that love and if we do not put into that love container dignity as well. Dignity has nothing to do with that foolish pride Ok? Dignity means that you don’t allow that the other person do to you what you would not do to him or her. Dignity is permissive with love, but it’s not permissive with pride, it’s not permissive with nonsensical behaviors, it’s not permissive with contempt, and it’s not accomplice of evil. When we are worthy, we are worthy only if we love ourselves. When we love ourselves it’s not ego, it's self-esteem, and if I am worthy I will not allow myself to fall apart if they don’t accept me.

Then, summarizing, as I said before Love is strengthened with balance and you told me: Love is a feeling, thus, Love cannot be balanced. However, Love is balanced with dignity and dignity is not felt. One is not pending to be worthy or to be loved. We have to incorporate it. Dignity does not give place to the ego. Dignity is not offended because it directly says ‘no’ when it must say ‘no’ period. Dignity is an excellent counselor. More than Good! To differentiate between being helpful or sycophantic at work, the sycophantic is the one who bows himself while flattering and then he gets no results. The helpful person is the one who is useful, but he/she knows when to say ‘no’ when others try to be unfair. Turn the other cheek, but not twice!

Returning to the beginning, we all are important, we are very important and our importance is not given by the approval of others, it’s given by our own approval, otherwise we would become successful seekers. We achieve a goal and we're the best. The following week we lose and then we are good-for-nothing. Then we are like a weather vane, which is moved by the wind. We fail and we are not good. We have a good result... Oh well, we are becoming important. Then, we are not human beings; we are leaves in the wind. In the wind of contempt, approval or applause. No. We are important because we are useful to ourselves and to others and we cannot allow that third parties stop us. Because no one has to take the helm of our lives except ourselves! Nobody! We cannot relinquish the helm, we cannot delegate, because we cannot allow that others control our lives, because we are not slaves of anyone. We cannot even be slaves of our own feelings. Because God gave us Free Will and the first thing we have to respect is our Free Will itself.

Now the second part, the opposite concept. We are not so important... we are not so important so that others live their lives paying attention to us, we are not so important so that others look at us - we can go to a place and go unnoticed, we are not so important to think that they are going to plot against us or there will be conspiracy, we are not so important so that others turn their heads to see us, because then we would become psychotic. Not neurotic, psychotic. We would have persecution complex, everyone plots against us... We are not so important! We are human beings like any other! We are not important enough to sneeze and everybody see us. We are not important enough so that they spy on us all the time. We are common people! But let’s see if we understand this, because if we are common people there it is our greatness. We are neither the best nor the worse. We are normal people. And within that normality is where we have that importance. In that normality we are important! Because we are Divine particles. And since we cannot be lenient with evil and contempt, we cannot be lenient with the alleged conspiracy.

Each one of us is the most important being there is for ourselves, but we are not so important unless we are a public figure. That is called balance and balance is what unites the opposites. Because if we start pursuing ourselves we would create a mental section in which we are persecuted by others. And it is not like that! We all are important! There will be people who love us, there will be people who accept us, there will be people for whom we are the world, there will be people for whom we are the most important beings, and there will be other people who treat us as if we were invisible. And that’s okay, Yes! Don’t we do the same? There are people who are loved by us with the bottom of the heart and some people who go unnoticed by us because we do not know who they are. Let’s not split hairs over this! Ha ha ha!

USEFUL PHRASES

'You cannot cut off the free will of others, not even from those who want to disturb, because it's against the laws of the game. Then,if God grants Free Will to all beings, unfortunately He cannot stop giving it to those people who destroy and disturb the path of Light'

' How to overcome the ego and integrate the selves? By enjoying Service... When enjoying Service one does not require any other type of enjoyment, because one enjoys thinking of the others. One is no longer the main actor, not even as a supporting actor. One enjoys giving. and it doesn't mean to be deprived of one's own enjoyment. A Spirit of Light enjoys debating. And this is not ego.'

'Wisdom, as wel Goodness, is not imposed but proposed. But remember that humanity is like a chain, where any link support the other. If you ascend, all mankind will ascend. If you fall, we all will fall. That's Why you're so important to everyone.'

'Do not listen to a message that conditions or imposes dogmas. Pay no attention to those words that hurt sensitivity.'

'Every human being on the physical plane plays a certain role (male, female, father, mother, son, dentist, painter, agronomist, teacher, etc..) Death is only the act when one lowers the curtain. The character ends, but not the actor who played that role.'

'When people are attached to old religious texts they do not advance ... In the words of the Master Jesus with his wisdom, "you cannot put new wine in old wineskins." When most people do not advance, they move backwards, and the worst thing is that they end up dragging others while they fall.'

'There are many shortcomings in the spiritual teachings that are given because they create fear in those who seek true Path of Light.'

'Give Service to your fellowmen. - But if I have nothing to give! Financially I'm broke. - What do you mean that you have nothing to give? You have your time, you have your spirit, your heart to give guidance, you have your warmth to provide it! There you are serving! So, the secret is not to doubt, the secret is to serve unconditionally. It's easy to talk about Service. The challenge is to carry out an altruistic act. You have to serve till the end.'

'Jesus taught kindness and this was replaced by strict rules and dogmatic teachings. The Master preached Service, but today, those who believe they represent him behave as leaders who seek to be served. Love that comforts became a dogma that imprisons the spirit and it doesn't let him enjoy. The spiritual path does not mean a tyrannical practice, but peace, it means joy, it means to merge with the Absolute in unlimited ecstasy.'

'Investigating based on learning means evolution. And it's even better if you convey all that you have learned.'

'He who has more ego, desires to dominate, wants to control everything and he is the one who suffers the most. The only way that one can stop suffering is to be detached. But this can be misunderstood. Detachment does not mean to neglect your neighbor, but to have more to offer Service to others, because this is important. It does not mean "indifference", which is the opposite, "It means to have more time to give Love”'

'When you have no ego "you don't need" and when you don't need naturally you feel the urge to give... Besides, when having no ego nothing hurts you, nothing can offend you... It is absurd to think that we are only here to be happy by ourselves when so many beings are still suffering and need our help.'

'Everyone will be responsible for himself, from his faults. Each one ascends or descends from level by his own responsibility. One can descend by his own faults or ascend by his own merits. otherwise, it would not be mercy.'

'Indifferent people do not hurt, but they do not help either, and although they don't move backwards, they don't advance neither.'

'We have to realize that just giving is when one receives. We must be aware of the feeling of happiness and joy when living in order to give. That is Goodness.'

'Unfortunately there is cruelty, because they hurt other people. But they also hurt themselves... That's unconsciousness. What do you do for your planet today? Who thinks about the future? Why don't they create laws of birth control in regions where newborns do not survive due to the lack of food?'

'It is very difficult to be happy on the physical plane because the Ego "needs", and embodied people de not realize that they are not happy enjoying while "doing nothing", because happiness comes from Service. He who doesn't do anything, is tired. Service, on the other hand, produces joy.'

'A man is useful while he serves.'

'There are beings who still have a long way to reach the planes of Light, because they will always give in to temptation, giving priority to indifference and meanness and forgetting Love and Service.'

'It is very difficult to introduce new concepts into the people. Just like the communicating vessels, first you have to empty them before you can add new content. Keep in mind that new paradigms were always rejected.'

'Evilness disappears when the spirit realizes that only through Love, one is able to evolve'

'We must have certainty in Love. But to be certain in Love, you have to practice it everyday and be accustomed to Serving.'

'If I have a certain problem and I see that changing my mood, I'm feeling comfortable. The one who feels comfortable is your ego.'

'Sometimes, a misunderstood attachment makes that humans behave like fools and I know that one cannot change those who do not want to change. Human beings have to realize that just giving they receive. They must be aware that the feeling of happiness and joy means to give. That is Goodness.'

'Those who are seeking gurus or teachers have to find them in those who live in humility, and if they display even a pinch of pedantry or arrogance, they must flee from these false teachers as if they were a plague.'

'The human being creates his own pain: the struggle for power, greed, speculation, indifference. Some will say: "Indifference is a lesser evil." It's not true. Because when an embodied being stops worrying about his brother, he begins worrying about himself. And there the suffering begins. His own suffering and the one of the person who was ignored.'

'It doesn't matter who you were. It matters who you are now, an that you are devoted to Service, which is altruistic. They know how to spread the messages, because the real Service is to transmit Love, to be useful to the other, to serve your neighbor, take the place of the others. "It doesn't matter who I was , but who I am going to be.'

'As well as ethics is inherent to the Light, respect, in the first place and formality in the second place are inherent to Love. Therefore, he who is respectful and formal loves the others. Just like the water that wets because it is inherent to water. God gives His Love unconditionally because Love is inherent to God.'

'Don't stop sharing. If your ego makes you feel important, you won't want to be overshadowed. Open your heart!'

'Religion, as it is taught today, does not have much to do with the true spiritual pathway. The genuine religion can be found inside of the people, not in the temples that turn to put limits to the feelings of the people.'

'It's not enough to go to the temples just to pray, prayer is useless if it's not accompanied by Service.'

'When a human being is on a mission, he has to live that mission in a joyful way, with humility, patience, thinking that if he has not reached his goal, it simply means that the time has not yet come. However if we became arrogant during the mission we are not doing our job and the goal will be lost'

'Negative emotions such as anger, envy, hatred and many other mistaken feelings, only make the ego grow up. However emotional Love is also in what we called impersonal Love and that is a positive emotion, like mercy, charity, compassion, sympathy etc.'

'Most beings are going to ask, rather to give. And many will ask: "How can we give?". "How can we give to the Father?". Giving to your neighbor is giving to the Father, because the Father is in each one of us. So if I offered my Service to my fellowmen, I am giving to the Father, and the Father will be joyful!'

'The human being is spirit, the spirit is concept, therefore the human being is concept. It means that the man is a being who can be human by having ideas. Unfortunately, the reactive mind is a ballast so overwhelming, that human beings stop thinking and they live sleeping.'

'He who has the more knowledge is going to be more responsible, because he will have to give that knowledge for the benefit of those who want to learn.'