Psychointegration: EGOTISTICAL LOVE

Thursday, November 7, 2013

EGOTISTICAL LOVE

EGOTISTICAL LOVE

Psychointegration Session

26/Sept/2007

By Jorge Raul Olguin.

Egotistical personal love is a huge topic, it has many definitions, it’s a possessive love, it’s a manipulative love, it’s a love which is offended, it’s a love that demands, but almost never gives, it is a love that usually provokes suffering, it is a love that only has one name. Many people practice this egotistical love by demanding, by pushing, by asking, but not giving anything in return. Egotistical love has little feeling although it has a lot of emotion, it has passion, it’s a love that can be very strong, but being egotistical it will always be subjected to the roles of ego.

Egotistical love demands much more than it gives, and when it does not get the expected reciprocation, it can be consumed by rage, the resentment can grow, sometimes it can look for revenge and is disguised as indifference, this egotistical love is pretty subjective. There is another personal Love which is full of sentiment and full of reciprocal respect, a Love which is also seasoned with desire, but it does not manipulate. Egotistical love has the same jealousy that “common personal love," badly called ‘common,’ but with excessive jealousy. Generally the egotistical love is on the opposite side of impersonal Love, almost never seeks to manipulate directly, it seeks to manipulate from subtlety, it seeks to manipulate from an important position, it seeks to manipulate using strategy games.

Generally, and this is very dangerous, the egotistical love contaminates the other person, because it’s supposed to happen between two people and the other person can also be contaminated with this egotistical personal love and react accordingly, also trying to manipulate and taking similar behaviors, obviously that it’s a very long-suffering love, it’s a love where both parties end up damaged, a love in which situations are not cleared up, a love in which the spirits are involved, or generally the spirit makes the 10% incarnated take part in it. We are saying that if the physical part is involved in this egotistical love, the soul and the spirit will also feel it accordingly, because the physical being transmits to the soul that hurtful emotion, which is generally a painful emotion that creates engrams.

Can this personal love be treated? Yes, obviously that it can be treated, but in order to do so, it is important that the person understands that he/she is suffering from this egotistical love, just like the person who is suffering from a certain dependency, the first step to treat it and eradicate this dependency, is to admit it! Just like the person who is dependent on a drug, alcohol, tobacco or any other herb, the person must first recognize that he/she is dependent.

Here we are not trying to extirpate love, but to modify it, it’s possible to modify this love so that the person, somehow, be free from his/her egotistical part, which is the part that immerses his/her love in pain. With this sentence we conclude the introduction of this egotistical love.

USEFUL PHRASES

'You cannot cut off the free will of others, not even from those who want to disturb, because it's against the laws of the game. Then,if God grants Free Will to all beings, unfortunately He cannot stop giving it to those people who destroy and disturb the path of Light'

' How to overcome the ego and integrate the selves? By enjoying Service... When enjoying Service one does not require any other type of enjoyment, because one enjoys thinking of the others. One is no longer the main actor, not even as a supporting actor. One enjoys giving. and it doesn't mean to be deprived of one's own enjoyment. A Spirit of Light enjoys debating. And this is not ego.'

'Wisdom, as wel Goodness, is not imposed but proposed. But remember that humanity is like a chain, where any link support the other. If you ascend, all mankind will ascend. If you fall, we all will fall. That's Why you're so important to everyone.'

'Do not listen to a message that conditions or imposes dogmas. Pay no attention to those words that hurt sensitivity.'

'Every human being on the physical plane plays a certain role (male, female, father, mother, son, dentist, painter, agronomist, teacher, etc..) Death is only the act when one lowers the curtain. The character ends, but not the actor who played that role.'

'When people are attached to old religious texts they do not advance ... In the words of the Master Jesus with his wisdom, "you cannot put new wine in old wineskins." When most people do not advance, they move backwards, and the worst thing is that they end up dragging others while they fall.'

'There are many shortcomings in the spiritual teachings that are given because they create fear in those who seek true Path of Light.'

'Give Service to your fellowmen. - But if I have nothing to give! Financially I'm broke. - What do you mean that you have nothing to give? You have your time, you have your spirit, your heart to give guidance, you have your warmth to provide it! There you are serving! So, the secret is not to doubt, the secret is to serve unconditionally. It's easy to talk about Service. The challenge is to carry out an altruistic act. You have to serve till the end.'

'Jesus taught kindness and this was replaced by strict rules and dogmatic teachings. The Master preached Service, but today, those who believe they represent him behave as leaders who seek to be served. Love that comforts became a dogma that imprisons the spirit and it doesn't let him enjoy. The spiritual path does not mean a tyrannical practice, but peace, it means joy, it means to merge with the Absolute in unlimited ecstasy.'

'Investigating based on learning means evolution. And it's even better if you convey all that you have learned.'

'He who has more ego, desires to dominate, wants to control everything and he is the one who suffers the most. The only way that one can stop suffering is to be detached. But this can be misunderstood. Detachment does not mean to neglect your neighbor, but to have more to offer Service to others, because this is important. It does not mean "indifference", which is the opposite, "It means to have more time to give Love”'

'When you have no ego "you don't need" and when you don't need naturally you feel the urge to give... Besides, when having no ego nothing hurts you, nothing can offend you... It is absurd to think that we are only here to be happy by ourselves when so many beings are still suffering and need our help.'

'Everyone will be responsible for himself, from his faults. Each one ascends or descends from level by his own responsibility. One can descend by his own faults or ascend by his own merits. otherwise, it would not be mercy.'

'Indifferent people do not hurt, but they do not help either, and although they don't move backwards, they don't advance neither.'

'We have to realize that just giving is when one receives. We must be aware of the feeling of happiness and joy when living in order to give. That is Goodness.'

'Unfortunately there is cruelty, because they hurt other people. But they also hurt themselves... That's unconsciousness. What do you do for your planet today? Who thinks about the future? Why don't they create laws of birth control in regions where newborns do not survive due to the lack of food?'

'It is very difficult to be happy on the physical plane because the Ego "needs", and embodied people de not realize that they are not happy enjoying while "doing nothing", because happiness comes from Service. He who doesn't do anything, is tired. Service, on the other hand, produces joy.'

'A man is useful while he serves.'

'There are beings who still have a long way to reach the planes of Light, because they will always give in to temptation, giving priority to indifference and meanness and forgetting Love and Service.'

'It is very difficult to introduce new concepts into the people. Just like the communicating vessels, first you have to empty them before you can add new content. Keep in mind that new paradigms were always rejected.'

'Evilness disappears when the spirit realizes that only through Love, one is able to evolve'

'We must have certainty in Love. But to be certain in Love, you have to practice it everyday and be accustomed to Serving.'

'If I have a certain problem and I see that changing my mood, I'm feeling comfortable. The one who feels comfortable is your ego.'

'Sometimes, a misunderstood attachment makes that humans behave like fools and I know that one cannot change those who do not want to change. Human beings have to realize that just giving they receive. They must be aware that the feeling of happiness and joy means to give. That is Goodness.'

'Those who are seeking gurus or teachers have to find them in those who live in humility, and if they display even a pinch of pedantry or arrogance, they must flee from these false teachers as if they were a plague.'

'The human being creates his own pain: the struggle for power, greed, speculation, indifference. Some will say: "Indifference is a lesser evil." It's not true. Because when an embodied being stops worrying about his brother, he begins worrying about himself. And there the suffering begins. His own suffering and the one of the person who was ignored.'

'It doesn't matter who you were. It matters who you are now, an that you are devoted to Service, which is altruistic. They know how to spread the messages, because the real Service is to transmit Love, to be useful to the other, to serve your neighbor, take the place of the others. "It doesn't matter who I was , but who I am going to be.'

'As well as ethics is inherent to the Light, respect, in the first place and formality in the second place are inherent to Love. Therefore, he who is respectful and formal loves the others. Just like the water that wets because it is inherent to water. God gives His Love unconditionally because Love is inherent to God.'

'Don't stop sharing. If your ego makes you feel important, you won't want to be overshadowed. Open your heart!'

'Religion, as it is taught today, does not have much to do with the true spiritual pathway. The genuine religion can be found inside of the people, not in the temples that turn to put limits to the feelings of the people.'

'It's not enough to go to the temples just to pray, prayer is useless if it's not accompanied by Service.'

'When a human being is on a mission, he has to live that mission in a joyful way, with humility, patience, thinking that if he has not reached his goal, it simply means that the time has not yet come. However if we became arrogant during the mission we are not doing our job and the goal will be lost'

'Negative emotions such as anger, envy, hatred and many other mistaken feelings, only make the ego grow up. However emotional Love is also in what we called impersonal Love and that is a positive emotion, like mercy, charity, compassion, sympathy etc.'

'Most beings are going to ask, rather to give. And many will ask: "How can we give?". "How can we give to the Father?". Giving to your neighbor is giving to the Father, because the Father is in each one of us. So if I offered my Service to my fellowmen, I am giving to the Father, and the Father will be joyful!'

'The human being is spirit, the spirit is concept, therefore the human being is concept. It means that the man is a being who can be human by having ideas. Unfortunately, the reactive mind is a ballast so overwhelming, that human beings stop thinking and they live sleeping.'

'He who has the more knowledge is going to be more responsible, because he will have to give that knowledge for the benefit of those who want to learn.'