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DENIAL

Psychointegration Session
26/JAN/2006
By Jorge Raul Olguin

Many times we think that the roles of ego only manipulate us in two ways. When the roles of ego manipulate us so that the person becomes narcissistic, conceited, pedantic, or when the person becomes insignificant, little, unimportant etc… It would be simple if we only had two edges of the geometric figure, but it goes much further.

There is something that many therapists have named and it’s what we called denial. When there is a loss, when there is a failure, the same role of the ego, which obviously requires of the same person to survive, -I speak about the ego as if it were something independent- actually the ego is part of each one of us, but let’s take it as an independent entity in order to be understood, right? The same ego, in order to survive, creates in the person a denial of all that it may have damaged. Therapists who treat people with different types of therapies say that denial occurs because there is a kind of short circuit in the brain -something that I will not rule out at this moment-, but I can say that I know cases, through the work of research that I did, where the same spiritual entities who have no physical brain, just a conceptual mind, they are also in denial. And there is no chemical process in the brain, there is no neurological process, but there is a conceptual process.

We know that the spirit has the complete memory of all reincarnations, of all the experiences, of all the pleasures, all joys, all sorrows, etc... Then, if the spirit has the complete memory, How that is combined with the denial of which I speak about? Since denial means leaving something aside, somehow forgetting... Well, that's where the role of ego acts. What the role of the ego does is to put a wall in front of that memory. It’s not that it compels the spiritual entity to forget about a certain painful event, what the ego does -and I’ll explain it in a very basic way, right?- Is to somehow stun the person so that the person keeps his/her mind elsewhere, if we speak of the 10%. And in the case of the 90% or the 100% pure spirit, what the ego does, is to form a kind of armor so that the spirit doesn’t remember those painful emotions again. You would say then:

- Well, but in this case the ego is helping us. Let’s not integrate the ego with psychointegration. Let’s leave the ego act causing denial because in that way there won’t be engramic restimulation.

That reasoning is not bad, but it’s not completely correct because the engram is already there. And just like we talked about it many times, we’ll give the example of the broken pipe again. If there is a broken pipe, a bad worker will simply repair the wall and then he will paint it. The fact is that the pipe will continue leaking and perhaps the water may not filter from the same place, but from somewhere else the water will come out until the wall will finally burst. A good worker, on the other hand, will fix the pipe first and only then will he repair the hole in the wall. Denial does not fix any broken pipe. Denial does not eradicate engrams. Denial may be able to avoid the memory of painful emotions or memories of painful physical experiences. Denial is not only for abandonment, denial is not only for contempt, it’s also for real physical episodes or painful episodes. Denial doesn’t’ work as a definitive therapy. It will work only as a PRO-VI-SIO-NAL therapy.

A definitive therapy has to go further. It must eradicate engrams with a different technique, the psychoauditing therapy, and then with the psychointegration therapy in order to make the person understand that painful emotions are also part of the experience that one lives. We have experiences; it does not mean that we cannot obtain wisdom through those experiences. We can understand that these experiences teach us how not to repeat certain attitudes, but there will always be new events, different circumstances, where the accumulated experience will not help at all. Meanwhile the ego will rudimentarily continue acting with denial. The ego will make that that spirit, that thetan or embodied person erase from his memory or his conceptual mind certain events that caused a tragedy, a certain event that caused tremendous anguish, a certain event that ended up in an apparent crisis with no solution, a certain circumstance that caused tremendous confusion with the subsequent collapse of projects, etc… However, denial is suppressing reality. Denial means not wanting to see. Denial does not want to find the solution.

Then I'll ask the question I asked earlier. Is the ego necessary so that it produces denial and thus not to consider painful circumstances? Isn’t it more important to confront in order to overcome a situation? I think I prefer the second option.

Once we understand that we are living roles and that the ego is just looking for that we personify, only then will we realize that we are above of many of the circumstances that would harm us, being still fragile.
As an epilogue, I want to say that not every spirit is strong to confront. But I do not speak about confronting immediately, but one must increasingly assume responsibility, assume commitments. Whenever one makes commitments and one is truly coherent with these commitments, being analytical, denial disappears and the spirit has the courage to confront successfully the different circumstances that once made him falter and even fall.

The ego branches out into roles. We must be alert, aware, be coherent; those roles only teach us to need, when our real and genuine path lies on the opposite way, giving to others with balance, without forgetting about ourselves, because the only way to give to the others is when we are full, complete. The more complete we are, the more Love we will be able to give. Although Love has no measure, the energy that the spirit has to give that Love has a measure. So, the more energy that a spirit has, the more it will be able to give that immense Love that comes from the Absolute.

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