DENIAL
Psychointegration Session
26/JAN/2006
By Jorge Raul Olguin
Many times we think that the roles of ego only manipulate us in two
ways. When the roles of ego manipulate us so that the person becomes
narcissistic, conceited, pedantic, or when the person becomes insignificant,
little, unimportant etc… It would be simple if we only had two edges of the
geometric figure, but it goes much further.
There is something that many therapists have named and it’s what we
called denial. When there is a loss, when there is a failure, the same role of
the ego, which obviously requires of the same person to survive, -I speak about
the ego as if it were something independent- actually the ego is part of each
one of us, but let’s take it as an independent entity in order to be understood,
right? The same ego, in order to survive, creates in the person a denial of all
that it may have damaged. Therapists who treat people with different types of
therapies say that denial occurs because there is a kind of short circuit in the
brain -something that I will not rule out at this moment-, but I can say that I
know cases, through the work of research that I did, where the same spiritual
entities who have no physical brain, just a conceptual mind, they are also in
denial. And there is no chemical process in the brain, there is no neurological
process, but there is a conceptual process.
We know that the spirit has the complete memory of all
reincarnations, of all the experiences, of all the pleasures, all joys, all
sorrows, etc... Then, if the spirit has the complete memory, How that is
combined with the denial of which I speak about? Since denial means leaving
something aside, somehow forgetting... Well, that's where the role of ego acts.
What the role of the ego does is to put a wall in front of that memory. It’s not
that it compels the spiritual entity to forget about a certain painful event,
what the ego does -and I’ll explain it in a very basic way, right?- Is to
somehow stun the person so that the person keeps his/her mind elsewhere, if we
speak of the 10%. And in the case of the 90% or the 100% pure spirit, what the
ego does, is to form a kind of armor so that the spirit doesn’t remember those
painful emotions again. You would say then:
- Well, but in this case the ego is helping us. Let’s not integrate
the ego with psychointegration. Let’s leave the ego
act causing denial because in that way there won’t be engramic restimulation.
That reasoning is not bad, but it’s not completely correct because
the engram is already there. And just like we talked about it many times, we’ll give the example of the
broken pipe again. If there is a broken pipe, a bad worker will simply repair
the wall and then he will paint it. The fact is that the pipe will continue
leaking and perhaps the water may not filter from the same place, but from
somewhere else the water will come out until the wall will finally burst. A good
worker, on the other hand, will fix the pipe first and only then will he repair
the hole in the wall. Denial does not fix any broken pipe. Denial does not
eradicate engrams. Denial may be able to avoid the memory of painful emotions or
memories of painful physical experiences. Denial is not only for abandonment,
denial is not only for contempt, it’s also for real
physical episodes or painful episodes. Denial doesn’t’ work as a definitive
therapy. It will work only as a PRO-VI-SIO-NAL
therapy.
A definitive therapy has to go further. It must eradicate engrams
with a different technique, the psychoauditing
therapy, and then with the psychointegration therapy
in order to make the person understand that painful emotions are also part of
the experience that one lives. We have experiences; it does not mean that we
cannot obtain wisdom through those experiences. We can understand that these
experiences teach us how not to repeat certain attitudes, but there will always
be new events, different circumstances, where the accumulated experience will
not help at all. Meanwhile the ego will rudimentarily continue acting with
denial. The ego will make that that spirit, that thetan or embodied person erase from his memory or his
conceptual mind certain events that caused a tragedy, a certain event that
caused tremendous anguish, a certain event that ended up in an apparent crisis
with no solution, a certain circumstance that caused tremendous confusion with
the subsequent collapse of projects, etc… However, denial is suppressing
reality. Denial means not wanting to see. Denial does not want to find the
solution.
Then I'll ask the question I asked earlier. Is the ego necessary so
that it produces denial and thus not to consider painful circumstances? Isn’t it
more important to confront in order to overcome a situation? I think I prefer
the second option.
Once we understand that we are living roles and that the ego is just
looking for that we personify, only then will we realize that we are above of
many of the circumstances that would harm us, being still
fragile.
As an epilogue, I want to say that not every spirit is strong to
confront. But I do not speak about confronting immediately, but one must
increasingly assume responsibility, assume commitments. Whenever one makes
commitments and one is truly coherent with these commitments, being analytical,
denial disappears and the spirit has the courage to confront successfully the
different circumstances that once made him falter and even
fall.
The ego branches out into roles. We must be alert, aware, be
coherent; those roles only teach us to need, when our real and genuine path lies
on the opposite way, giving to others with balance, without forgetting about
ourselves, because the only way to give to the others is when we are full,
complete. The more complete we are, the more Love we will be able to give.
Although Love has no measure, the energy that the spirit has to give that Love
has a measure. So, the more energy that a spirit has, the more it will be able
to give that immense Love that comes from the
Absolute.
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